So you have read up on our tips on how to look and act the part of a prospective boyfriend? That is an excellent start to catching a lady, but unless you would rather just be admired from afar it does not mean that you can sit back and wait for one to show up. Nature has programmed us men to take a more active role in courtship, and while it might be subject to individual variation you are therefore most likely to have to initiate contact with the woman you desire.

This very first step is as much an innocent socialization technique as it is a part of the mating process. First impressions are tremendously important. The way you act at the initial encounter will inevitably affect the girl’s opinion of you, and we have therefore compiled a list of tips of how to best go about it to improve your chances of success.

First of all realize that when or where is irrelevant. If you are getting the right signals, she is probably interested and waiting for you to approach. Eye contact and body language are good ways of telling long before you have engaged in verbal communication. While nervousness is natural at this stage, do not let it stop you from going up to her or looking and acting your best as you do.

Start out with a simple hello. Skip the pickup lines, it does not work that way and will at best make her laugh, at worst make her disinterested from the very start. Also do not think up an excuse for why you have approached her. While it does not mean that you should be too straight to the point, some measure of directness of intent is flattering for her and will make her feel special. That is a feeling you want her to have.

Continue by striking up a conversation. Neutral and lighthearted ground is the best option at this point as too much intrusiveness will not work in your favor. Context-related questions are probably the best way to start, though if things go well there is no need to limit your interaction to the immediate situation. If they do not, excuse yourself and move on. There is no reason to keep on trying if she is clearly not interested.

However if things go as planned and she responds favorably to your advances there are yet more rules to be observed. Avoid answering the phone or replying to text messages while you are talking. Keep it brief if it absolutely has to be done. Otherwise you will make her feel like you are too busy to be talking to her and that she is keeping you from something that might be more important. Yet, to counteract that statement, do not be too available either. Hanging around waiting for something to happen will eventually get awkward and seem desperate. You want her hoping for more, as opposed to wondering when on earth you will leave her alone. It is therefore a good idea to kill the conversation while it is hot. End on a positive note and move on.

Before you part, however, consider how further contact might come about. Swapping contact details is the obvious answer to this one, though if you are likely to encounter her again in your daily life you need not necessarily bother with it at this stage.

While it might be nerve-racking the first time around, it will get easier with practice. Make it routine by applying it not just to women you would like to date but to chance encounters of all sorts and you will soon find that it comes easier to you.

Further Reading

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