Everyone is looking for what to say to beautiful women that will convince them to like you from the moment you start up a conversation. There are tons of excellent pick up lines out there, but most of them are modifications of the exact same approaches.

Understanding why a pick up line works will help you to modify the line itself and put your own personal spin on it. Modifying the pick up line will help you to stand out in her memory, making it more likely that you will get her number and that she will want to date you.

Below are three successful pick up lines and why they work. If you use these lines in the future, feel free to modify the wording to suit the current situation and your own way of speaking by basing your personal pick up line on the reasons why these ones work.

1. “Hi. I don’t have a lot of time to talk, but I noticed you walking by and thought you were so beautiful that I had to meet you. My name is…”

This is known as the direct approach. This pick-up line works, because, despite what people think, most men refuse to use it. It takes a lot of guts and self confidence to just walk up to a woman and tell her that your interested, because society tells us that we are supposed to be more subtle than that. Since most men won’t use the direct approach, this type of pick up line sets you apart from the ordinary guys.

The key to this approach is not only to tell her you are interested, but also to use the “now or never” closure. Notice how the line begins with not having any time to talk right now. The whole encounter should take less than a few minutes, during which you should be able to tell her you’ll need her phone number to call her later that day.

Whatever your excuse is for not being able to stay, stick to it. If you tell her that you have no time and then suddenly you spend all day with her, you’ll seem like someone that’s willing to drop everything for a pretty face. That might be flattering to her, but it’ll cause her to worry in the long run that you’ll blow her off for something unimportant.

2. “I was wondering if you could help me. I can’t seem to find a place to get a good cup of coffee.”

This is known as a situational approach. This pick-up line works, because it is tailored to whatever situation you happen to be in. If you’re on the street, ask her for directions to a coffee shop, store, or restaurant. If you’re in a store, tell her you’re having trouble finding an item or making a decision between two possible purchases. The point here is that you are asking her for her help.

Society teaches us that men are supposed to be strong and not ask for help for anything. To be the ultimately independent he-man can be exhilarating, I’m sure, but it doesn’t set you apart from the hundreds of men that are striving for the same thing. Admitting that you want help shows her that you are not arrogant and that you think that her opinion or information is worthwhile.

3. “Hi. I considered buying you a drink, because I’d love to get to know you better, but you seem to already have one. Why don’t you buy me a drink instead?”

This is known as a pattern interrupt. This pick-up line works, because it sets you apart from other men that have approached this woman before. In the example above, we’ve noticed that tons of men walk in and offer to buy a pretty lady a drink in order to get to know her. In this example you offer to have her buy you one instead.

This line shows confidence that she will want to get to know you as well and can also be played with a certain sense of humor and teasing. Pattern interrupts can be tailored to specific situations, but should be handled with care. Sometimes there is a reason why all men do not go in a specific direction. For example, beginning a conversation with a direct insult is not a good idea, even if it is the opposite of what most men would do.

When using a pattern interrupt, keep the conversation light and airy while inserting humor and wit. Be sure to show off, rather than point out, your best qualities throughout the conversation. Providing her with actions that showcase your best characteristics will help to transform you from “that strange guy that doesn’t seem like other men” to “that sweetheart with the great sense of humor.”

Further Reading

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